5 Mistakes to Avoid on Family Photo Day (And What to Do Instead)
It’s Family Photo Day… Let’s Not Panic
You’ve picked the outfits, cleared the calendar, maybe even wrangled your kids into coordinating shoes (bonus points if they match). You might have whispered something like, “Please, just smile for the nice camera lady,” while bribing them with a lollipop before the car ride over. Sound familiar?
Deep breath. You’ve got this; and I’ve got you.
As a lifestyle family photographer who’s worked with hundreds of families, I’ve learned what helps a session flow smoothly and what can accidentally trip things up. If you’re looking for real-life family photo session tips that actually make a difference, you’re in the right place.
Let’s walk through five common mistakes families make on photo day and what to do instead to create the kind of relaxed, joyful, stress-free family photography experience you’re hoping for.
Mistake #1: Overhyping the Session to the Kids
I know you mean well. You're excited! You want them to cooperate! But when kids hear “We’re taking family photos and you have to smile and behave!!” all day long, they start to feel the pressure, and they often arrive overwhelmed, over it, or both.
What to do instead:
Keep the vibe low-key and playful. Try something like:
“We’re going to hang out in the park today, and our friend Katie is bringing her camera.”
That’s it. No big build-up. No pressure. When kids feel like they’re just going to play and be with you, their natural sweetness (and silliness) shines through. Which is exactly what we want.
Mistake #2: Skipping the Snacks (or Naps)
Listen, no one — and I mean no one — brings their best self to a photo session when they’re hungry, tired, or two seconds from a meltdown.
What to do instead:
Think ahead. If your little one usually gets cranky around a certain time of day, avoid scheduling your session right before or during that window. A well-timed snack or some quiet downtime before your session can work wonders for keeping their energy up and their mood happy. Bring water and a couple of easy, mess-free snacks, like fruit snacks, crackers, or puffs. Avoid chocolate or anything that will stain their teeth (and their shirt).
Short on time? Mini sessions are a great option for busy families — quick, fun, and perfect for keeping little ones engaged.
Mistake #3: Letting the Outfits Take Over
Yes, the right outfits can absolutely help your photos look polished and cohesive. But if you’re caught up fixing every hair out of place or straightening that one stubborn collar, you’re missing the moments happening right in front of you. I've seen sessions get sidetracked by constant adjusting while little ones start to lose steam. The truth? Perfection isn’t the goal; connection is.
What to do instead:
Choose outfits that feel like you. Soft neutrals, warm earth tones, and layered textures photograph beautifully. But don’t get caught up in perfection. Comfort is key, especially for kids. If they’re itchy, cold, or stuffed into shoes they hate, it’ll show (and feel) in the photos.
Pro tip: Start by choosing your outfit first — yes, you, Mom! Pick something that makes you feel confident and comfortable, and then build the rest of the family's outfits around it. Not sure where to start? Fray Boutique in Oconomowoc has a beautiful selection of clothing for moms and little ones. It’s one of my go-to’s for finding session-ready outfits that feel both stylish and effortless.
This approach not only simplifies the planning process but also ensures a cohesive look. Lay out everyone's outfits together a few days before the session to see how they coordinate. Aim for complementary colors and textures rather than exact matches. And remember, bare feet on a blanket is totally allowed. For more detailed tips on planning your family's photo session wardrobe, check out my guide on What to Wear to Your Family Photography Session.
Mistake #4: Trying to Micromanage Every Moment
“Smile! Look at the camera! No, not like that!”
Sound familiar? We all do it, because we care! But micromanaging usually leads to stiff, forced expressions… and a lot more stress for everyone involved.
What to do instead:
Take a step back and trust me. Really. I’ll guide your family through prompts and playful moments that bring out the real smiles — the ones that happen when you're just being yourselves. That’s the heart of lifestyle family photography. It’s not about perfection or posing. It’s about capturing connection.
My goal isn’t to have everyone frozen in the perfect “say cheese” shot. It’s to document the way your toddler reaches for your hand, the way your partner looks at you when you’re laughing, the way your family feels together in this exact season.
When parents stay calm and present, kids feel safe to be themselves, and that’s when the magic happens. You don’t have to direct a single thing. That’s my job, and I promise, I’ve got you.
Mistake #5: Forgetting the Real Reason You’re Doing This
Between the logistics and the to-do list, it’s easy to lose sight of what matters. These photos aren’t about perfect poses or holiday card likes. They’re about remembering. About freezing a moment in this wild, beautiful, fleeting season.
What to do instead:
Take a breath. Let the imperfections in. Let your toddler carry their favorite rock. Let your baby’s wild curls fly in the breeze. Let yourself laugh, snuggle, and hold hands like no one’s watching. Because someday, you’ll look back on these images and feel it all over again.
That’s what lifestyle family photography is all about: it’s less about performing, and more about preserving how it all felt. Real life, real love, real connection, beautifully unscripted.
Your Family Is Already Perfect. Let’s Capture That
You don’t need a flawless plan. You don’t need Pinterest-worthy outfits or perfectly behaved kids. You just need to show up, love on your people, and let me handle the rest.
We’re not aiming for perfection. We’re aiming for heart. Let’s make this a memory: one filled with joy, laughter, and stress-free family photography you’ll love forever.
Ready to capture your crew just as they are? Reach out below to book your session!